Coaching

It is an all-too-common occurrence for many of us – we are going about our days, feeling good and like we are managing things. Then bam! Something happens and we are knocked to the floor, leaving us feeling insecure. Maybe it’s an off-handed comment by a family member or boss. Or we leave an encounter feeling like we messed up. Perhaps we forgot to do something that leaves us feeling like the worst ever. When feeling insecure takes over, it is important to take time to do a debrief to figure out what derailed our day. Too often we spend our time berating ourselves, replaying our mistake in our head, and letting “could have, would have, should have,” take control. But if we want to find a way to stop feeling insecure, we must take control and analyze what happened. Sometimes what happened was a simple mistake or misunderstanding. Other times, we are on the receiving end of someone else’s bad day. But most times, feeling insecure starts and ends inside of us. Our inner critic knows our weaknesses. It can push the right button and pull us into the pit. What to Do When You're Feeling Insecure But we don’t have to live there. Regardless of what happened, you can take control of the moment and bring some perspective to things. All you need is a notebook, pen, and the gumption to be honest with yourself. Start with the questions below to help defuse insecurity’s power: Why do you feel insecure? Describe what happened, whether it’s a real incident or the thought of insecurity in your head. What is the critic saying? What is leading to those feelings? What actions are you taking to cause these feelings? What outside influences are you letting speak into things? What is this triggering [...]